How do we come to a consensus when we dialogue?

Now, this is an important topic not only in the settings of ecumenical dialogue but also in other settings of dialogue, say in the family, community, organization or elsewhere.

What I will do here is to simply list a process that one should always keep in mind. Consensus building could be very complex but if we are able to have the following simplified steps in mind, it will help a lot.

So, the essential elements in the process of consensus building are as follows:

1. Presentation of an issue to be discussed – just a single issue is enough.
2. Questions for clarification – this should happen prior to the discussion.
3. Open discussion of different viewpoints/perspectives – this must be honest and respectful as well.
4. Development of possible proposals – the coagulation behinds to happen at this point.
5. Preparation of a specific proposal – you might need a good secretary for this!
6. Discussion of the specific proposal – things are still rusty at this point. Still a draft!
7. Checking for consensus – this can happen through simple voting.
8. Declaration of consensus – which might also include endorsement, whether temporal (where there is another level of deliberation or reception) or official which is more like a final assent.

In a situation of clear polarization, then a decision could be made to either take a definite decision or to defer the discussion to another time to allow for more consultation and reflection.

If we can agree sometimes even in our subtle or grave disagreements, then the world would be a much better place.